“I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health.
I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”
- from Catholic wedding vows
Click on the link GETTING MARRIED? for plenty of additional info, resources and ideas. But first, here are a few fundamentals of marriage preparation to keep in mind, as you move forward to this beautiful sacrament...
Steps to Prepareing Well for the Sacrament of Matrimony:
- Continue to pray & discern if you are ready for this life long decision to share life together.
- Contact and meet with your parish priest as soon as you are engaged (at least 6 Months before your wedding).
- It's recommended to take a full 9 months to prepare for your marriage. This goes beyond choosing a date and church, reserving a place for the reception, and picking out dresses. It means using this time to delve more deeply into your relationship and approach this momentous day with prayer and reflection.
- Attend an approved marriage preparation program. There are many different formats for marriage preparation programs ranging from intensive weekends, to a weekly series, to “in home” mentor couple programs.
- Catholic marriage preparation programs are usually presented by a team of lay married couples and a priest or deacon.
- The Archdiocese of Portland asks couples to take a marriage preparation inventory (such as FOCCUS or PREPARE & ENRICH). These are not “tests” to determine whether you can get married in the Church, but rather give a snapshot of your relationship. You are better able to discuss what issues you already agree on and what you might need to discuss further.
- Planning your Catholic wedding, please visit this page.
Most importantly at the time of your engagement, the Church welcomes you to this sacrament of Marriage in the spirit of Jesus who said:
This is my commandment: love one another as I love you.
No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.
Parish Support for Preparing Engaged Couples HERE